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Sexting – for established relationships

by Beth Divine 14 May 2019

Sexting tends to make headlines every now and then, usually for the wrong reasons. But sexting between consenting partners who are respectful of and wildly in love with each other can be a fantastic relationship tool. However, there are steps to sexting and no stranger should immediately send nudes to someone they would like to get to know; except in vary rare cases, this will instantly destry any chance of a romance! However, at the other end of the scale, sexting between established lovers who know their partners inside and out (almost literally!) can be very graphic and explicit, pressing buttons that the sender knows are there to be pressed!

Sexting can be the exchange of flirtatious banter and text, the sending of risqué images and emojis and it can include the sending of nude photographs. Here are some tips on how far you should go and at what point in your relationship you should do so.

Once the relationships has been established, and you have now had the chance to explore each other’s body to some degree, even if you have not yet had full sex, then you can begin to send each other photos of your nude or semi-nude bodies. If you have any doubts about their trustworthiness, you can take steps to anonymise yourself by keeping your face hidden. In this way, if anyone sees the photograph they will not know that it is you – unless, of course, they have seen you naked too!

Sexting at this point in the relationship is a great way to pique interest and begin foreplay, even while you are apart. It is always best to make sure that they are not concentrating on something important for work before you begin – a quick text, saying something like ‘Hi, you available to text chat for a bit?’ followed by a winking face emoji can help you to make sure that they will be able to give you their undivided attention for a short while. If not, you can ask them to let you know when they are free, with a naughty hint of what might be coming their way to make sure they hold up their end of the bargain.

Sexy texts and images do not have to be photographs of genitalia – which, let’s be quite honest, are quite ugly body-part-wise, for both men and women! You can make a little storyboard for your partner: sexy knickers, a bottle of wine, some wide silky ribbon, a couple of condoms and a bottle of lube tell their own story, especially when teamed with words like ‘thoughts for later, yes/ no?’ or something equally promising.

Used right, sexting can take your relationship to the next level, increasing trust and intimacy and making foreplay last even longer – spending the whole afternoon fantasizing about what you will be doing to each other later can make the experience so much more satisfying!