One hundred years ago everyone knew that women were
congenitally incapable of enjoying sex. Forty years ago, everyone knew that the
female orgasm was a myth – or, at the very least, seriously exaggerated. Twenty
years ago, everyone knew that the G-Spot was mythical. Five (or so) years ago,
everyone knew that that the clitoris was a tiny bud, hidden in the labial folds
at the top of the vagina, almost impossible for any normal man to find with
fingers, tongue or any other body part he cared to try…
As you may have guessed, this piece is about the G-Spot and its now proven existence, but what might surprise you is the reason for the G-Spot and why its existence and location has remained unproven and misunderstood for quite so long.
Medical theory, once the existence of the female orgasm was accepted, held that women only had clitoral orgasms, and it was believed – based loosely on Marie Bonaparte’s extensive personal research – that the reasons some women orgasmed easily and others not at all or with great difficulty, was because of each women’s unique anatomy. The distance between the clitoral hood and the vaginal opening needed to be shorter in order for penetrative sex to provoke orgasm: a inch, give or take three-quarters of an inch, was the measure that Bonaparte cited, with those poor women with a distance of over three inches between orifice and clit being the least likely to be satisfied by penetration alone.
The G-Spot, was alleged to be an internal cluster of nerves, inside the vagina, towards the front wall (ie, closer to the belly than the spine), that would respond very favourably to firm pressure or rubbing, as of fingers, a penis, or a sex toy designed with a bulbous tip and a curve to bring it into contact with the right spot.
It is now known that the clitoris is much bigger than was first surmised, and that the bit that most people thought was the sum total of the whole clit is, in fact, just the hood – a central hub of nerves, to be sure, that responds well to stimulus. Most women can come just from clitoral stimulation alone, so sensitive is this misunderstood organ. But the hood is far from being the whole, or even most of the organ.
The clitoris is, actually, a double-wishbone shaped feature. The hood is where all four appendages join together, with the long ‘arms’ running down the side of the inner labia. The shorter arms are more deeply embedded in the walls, and they add to the pleasure experienced during penetrative sex.
The G-Spot, it has now been realised – clever anatomists will have understood this immediately too – is a place within the vaginal walls through which the clitoris can be stimulated. Not the clitoral hood, but its underside, so to speak, and the shorter arms.This is why the G-Spot is so ‘elusive’ – we have already established that the clitoral hood can be sited many inches apart in different women, and the G-Spot will line up with the hood. So if you have never found your G-Spot, at least you know where to start looking – or feeling!